Friday, May 28, 2010
a very inspiring poem
Saturday, April 17, 2010
A MINDFUL OF GOLD !
A MINDFUL OF GOLD !
Friday, April 16, 2010
THANK YOU, MY LEARNED SENIORS
Thursday, April 8, 2010
I am an INDIAN doctor please
100 taps : What's in a name?
MY NAME IS BOND. JAMES BOND.
please note: all and sundry that "MY NAME IS SONAL"
Confused?You see I began with "james bond", "khan" to remind you the importance of a name.A name is so important to the person whose name it is atleast.. We all remember these dialogues.. Dale carnegie has also written about great leaders becoming greater by remembering the names of little people( I dont mean khali will become greater by remembering mahatma gandhi's name-but then you get my idea I guess) . A name is the sweetest sound to a person's ears( especially if being announced for lottery wins or some awards) A name is your unique identity.. You see that's the sound one begins to hear when one 1st starts hearing.. So one prefers to hear it the way it is and not the way others want to pronounce it!
Aha!finally she comes to the point.. My name was recently announced at an official venue by a learned female doctor as " doctor shonali" . I thought it was for some doctor from kolkata centre and I remained seated for 1min..When she repeated shonali with other specifications & I got up for that official work(determined to correct her pronunciation once the work was over).It got over within seconds and the lady doctor announced my name as "doctor shonaali"blah blah blah... i wondered what my dad sitting outside is thinking.. Is this my daughter who has been able to finish her work or some dusky damsel from bengal has done so instead of my darling daughter?? As i walked outside other medicos congratulated me " shonaali congrats..gud choice".. huh!! I managed a smile.. Whats in a name?congrats for the gud choice was important but no I was smirking because she had announced my identity to the world as shonaali which I am not.. All the past memories came back to me in an instant.. The memoirs of my "ex -names" .. Why cant people get such a small and sweet name correct?? I am S+O+N+A+L.. simple isnt it? but no!! over the years people have addressed me in various ways...College teachers called me "sonam" pretty often(not in the days when sonam kapoor was well known)..School teachers called me "sonia"(sonia sounds like a romantic novel but I was very studious then so resented it).. Some people called me "sonali"( bendre was in vogue then but I wasn't as tall and thin as her).. Some wannabe frnds address me as "shonu" or "sonu" trying to sound oh!so cute( they are both petnames for boys as well so I didnt find it cute).. Aha! one name that I dont mind is my best frnd writing "SON" in an angry sms & that's because she atleast isn't calling me names..Abbreviated name is better than any expletives!!
The tirade for names doesn't end here..We had a class in school where we had to stand up and introduce ourselves by telling about meanings of our names..Thank GOD I am not monu (not very conspicuous and meaningful names).. I stood up and said"my name is SONAL and it means the golden one, like the pristine radiance spread on the horizon by the mighty orb of golden light that rises each dawn".. It was the hindi teachers class and she missed the meaning!! Perhaps she couldn't fathom that I was speaking of the SUN..She dismissed me by saying "sit down "sau nal"" please be short & we are running out of time. Oh my God!! my well rehearsed meaning put so beautifully fell to deaf ears..Clever classmates caught her "sau nal" instead of "sonal" and translated it in to hindi" sau = 100 and nal = tap" so I was nicknamed "100 taps" now... 100 taps was what my dad would also call me when I used to cry over trivial matters,but to be named by classmates so cruelly doesn't feel nice. I couldn't even cry!lest the 100 taps tag gets stuck permanently!!
There will be another write up about surnames..This one deals with first names only.. Why do people wanna play with a name?? I mean the wierder a name the more easy to remember like "ranchod das shyam lal chanchad" from 3 idiots or even "phunsuk wangdu" from the same movie. Then why abbrevaite it? after all tht buffoon chatur was called chatur through out the film!! Why sould ranchod become rancho!!(rancho sounds like the name of a german shepherd dog to me)
I also wonder about the feelings of "the one who should not be named"lord voldemort from harry potter series..If I had to hypothetically write his diary entry(like in 10th class cbse exams) I would begin by describing my hurt feelings about people talking about me without taking my name!
Code names are so much fun because the more complicated they are more is the fun in using them..& I think its better than spoiling some one's name for affection/backbiting purposes.. I call someone "KMT" kahani mein twist..(but dont abbreviate or spoil his actual name!!)
They say what's in a name? I'd say plenty... Ask any numerologist!! He makes millions altering the spelling of names!! Astrologers mint money by suggesting "1st letter" for the name of a newborn.Jhumpa lahiri minted or let's say printed millions by writing "the namesake".. So please take full care while addressing someone's name. It's the sweet sound of his/her unique identity(unless charged with murder). I was named "SONAL" by my parents who insisted on calling me sonal only and not by any nickname.. Then why the world calls me in different ways?? Even paediatricians admit that too many nicknames confuse a baby.. After all I prefer to be " the golden girl-- a brilliant doctor" SONAL not "100 taps" or whatever you want to call me..
Student to professor : Ma'am should we address you as Mrs. Williams or Dr.Williams for your Phd or Professor Williams ?
lol..
from my post on http://bakaristan.com/archives/481
An unsent letter to the HT Editor
This was a letter to editor of HT written by me 2 yrs ago..never emailed..
The Editor,
Hindustan times,
K.G.Marg,
New Delhi.
Subject—a doctor’s response to “IT’s getting worrisome”
Respected Sir/ma’am,
This is in response to the article “IT’s getting worrisome” on page 12 on Sunday the 4th of may 2008. I really appreciate the writer manoj sharma who has given the story a very catchy heading & started the article with an almost macabre story about the flip side of the hefty pay-packages in the IT industry. He has also collected interesting figures about depression, suicide, divorces etc from professional sources like NIMHANS, lawyers in connection to the IT industry. Every middle class Indian wants his son to make it to the IIT & finally into this IT industry offering hefty packages, so showing the flipside is a good idea. That’s the real reason for the readers interest in your story ”what goes behind the scenes in the life of these fast earning computer geeks?”
If your purpose is not just a catchy news article but drawing the attention of the masses towards an alarming problem, then why not take up a less glamorous but more prevalent cause?? The DOCTORS.
In the recent years more and more articles are focused on the IT industry—life style changes due to hefty pay packages, stress due to long working hours, books by engineers etc etc. I think it’s due to M factor—money, money & more money. so it will give you more readership. why has everybody forgotten the man (err…no gender bias here,indicates the species) with the healing touch?
The last few yrs have shown a steady decline in those who take up biology in school, a fall in the no. of PMT aspirants, a rise in rate of doctors wanting to work abroad, a rise in dissatisfaction among doctors, a rise in doctors trying to crack the CAT & pursuing MBA, a decline in no. of PG seats due to reservation, a rise in delayed marriages for doctors, more stringent laws for doctors—be it practice or post graduation or migration to USA or UK—and add to it the lovely suggestion by the attention seeking health minister that doctors should work as interns for 2yrs & out of which 1yr in rural area.
Scene1—-“you sat together in school ,shared tiffins, shared experiences happily with your classmate who if not less intelligent than you but may be at par in studies…then your sections changed when you took up biology intending to become a physician & he took up maths intending to become an engineer…you remained in touch happily— tuition tales, then selection parties, then college fest stories, school reunions etc… till one day your graduation was about to finish in 6 months & you were pondering that how will I juggle working hours as an intern (which will fetch a stipend of about 5000 Rs per month) with PG preparation? when your old pal calls you up to inform that he has shifted to Bangalore & is earning about 10 lac per annum in the IT industry. You congratulate him happily…but you suddenly feel that just after graduation he is earning ten lac and you not even 1 lac.. Even after PG (which is becoming more difficult to crack day by day) you wont earn that much for yrs to come”
You are not jealous of your pal but are merely comparing the scenario in terms of money. This is one cause of growing dissatisfaction among doctors. so they are turning towards MBA
Scene2—“As a resident in surgery or obs-gyn or medicine one can tell you the endless nights per week they don’t sleep at all or sleep for 2 hrs at most and then the next day work till midnight again. They are scolded constantly by the senior residents or consultants…they are human beings too. They vent their frustration on unsuspecting friends, relatives…they cant visit their home towns for months…..they are stressed out & depressed… Patients visit quacks who spoil the cases and when the patient is about to die he is brought to the casualty of a govt. hospital where despite prompt medical help the patient dies but these villagers blame the residents in the hospital and beat them up….all this too adds to the doctors’ woes”But since they are not as famous as the high earning software professionals sitting in Air-conditioned rooms no reporter wants to write about them
Scene3—“a depressed resident commits suicide, a medicine undergraduate commits suicide….but no history of psychiatric consultation is found. Though its said that depressed people tend to seek help before resorting to suicide…they may have found it difficult to consult a fellow doctor about their personal issues & frustrations….his colleagues are coping well he thinks….there is cut throat competition in medical world too & it definitely takes its toll on a doctors life…supposed to be strong but they are also fragile human beings…also exposing their problems to a psychiatrist they know may be embarrassing unlike for other people who would hesitate less before meeting a psychiatrist” There are big articles about rising suicides in IIT but not much of an issue if increasing no. of medicos attempt 2 end their lives…..they are meant to heal the wounded but no one notices that they may be wounded healers themselves
Scene4—“front page news—BAPIO gets a court order that Indian doctors in UK can work there with Europeans……hey!wait a sec!what forced these doctors to alien lands?? a search for a better life & good pay—because in India life for doctors is not that easy…also why are we bothered about the plight of Indian doctors working in US &UK when we don’t have time to think about the problems facing young Indian doctors in India itself? because it’s a foreign land and so we can point a finger at them to say you are mistreating Indians & make it an issue of racial discrimination for good readership. And also because “blame-game” is a pet Indian pass time . the rules of the game do not allow Indians to introspect and see our own troubles but the neighbor’s family feud is worth a talk.
Scene5—despite getting married many medicos pursuing post graduation are living separately in different cities…….they meet just once in months…when they start a family (which would be delayed of coarse) its difficult for them also to juggle between work & family…marital discord & divorces are as rampant in their lives but why bother about the bedroom of a doctor who is meant to serve the ailing souls when we have IPL and redskins to bother about? Big IT firms organize picnics, get together, counseling, yoga etc for their computer geeks but not many hospitals plan such activities for overworked residents….the ministers are more bothered about the smoke around shahrukh khan than the fact that frustrated medicos despite knowing the hazards of smoking are among the top consumers of cigarettes . instead of providing better infrastructure in rural areas doctors after yrs of toil in a medical college should land up in a village. where should the doctors kids study? in village pathshaala of coarse!! I don’t say that doctors should not serve the rural India(real India—rural India!) but just notice the effect it has on the doctors life too. Provision of better facilities will help the villagers first. Clean drinking water will bring down diarrhea deaths in villages but instead of focusing on these things ministers want to send interns to villages for a year…..why not make it compulsory for engineers to work for a year in rural India for better roads, electricity,computer connectivity to villages etc ?why not send MPs, MLAs to atleast visit the villages in their constituencies once a yr? why not ask reporters to write about villagers&their problems instead of writing about salman rushdie’s divorce?
Scene6—kidney kingpin caught —amazing headlines. patient dies on gate of private hospital—another news. These are merely the black sheep of the family of physicians. But these are given front page status& a small mistake by a doctor is hyped in news. I agree that mistakes on part of doctors may be life threatening for a patient, but then why not focus a little on the doctors life? ease his burden a little….look at him from a humanitarian point of view…focus not only on his mistakes but also on his accomplishments& problems. Only extremely rare cases treated by doctors or an innovative surgical technique make it to news headlines whereas a doctor cures scores of patients &saves lives constantly…
To conclude I would quote erich segal , author of the novel-doctors “Do not forget that Though they treat the wounded they may be wounded healers themselves…..”
Thanking you,
Regards,
Dr. Sonal